Sorry, I usually ignore grammar because its easier, but here "Thank you; I appreciate that a lot. Blessings to you too. I play a lot of video games, and sometimes it is fun with the right people and the right game. It can make me happy, but sometimes it makes me rage and feel angry when something I see as unfair happens. I get mad, and Ill try not to curse because Im unsure if you would mind, and I suppose I shouldnt, regardless. Anyways, when I lose because of something dumb and unjust, I get pissed off. I feel robbed, like I should have won, and thats unfair. It also makes me feel weak and powerless. The other day, I was playing with my brother, and he kind of plays the game in a cheap, unskilled way. I was beating him, but then the game had some stupid thing in it, without any warning, and I ended up losing. I hated this; it felt unfair, like I got robbed. Now they hear me rage and complain about the game, but they try to justify it because he won. Why wouldnt he? They probably think I complain all the time, which I guess is correct, but I only complain if I think something unfair happened. I just got so upset; I cried because I felt like I kept getting screwed over. They probably think theyre better than me at the game. They dont care about my situation or the fact that I play a lot less than them. They probably only care if they win and think theyre better. They probably also pity me when I cried, or he probably feels good because he made me cry or something. Similar things have happened in the past, and I hate it. Also, I always wanted to be strong since I was young, and I feel like I have skills. I achieved great things in games, but then something dumb happens that makes me lose and doubt myself and my skill. I rage harder than normal when Im playing with my brother than with my friends. I dont fully know why; it just isnt as much fun. Maybe its because of our past, and that makes me take the game more seriously, but it just feels like Im not strong enough or good enough. It makes me doubt my skill because I think I am more skilled, but then the game says no. I feel robbed and mistreated, and I have to deal with whatever theyre thinking because I live with them currently. If I didnt, I wouldnt care. I dont know how to control my anger; I guess I suck at it. I dont know if my anger is worse than the average person with medical issues like diabetes, etc. Im not sure, but I guess I suck at managing it. Also, there are just a lot of things in life where I feel like I can be skilled. Some games I play a lot, and Im really good at them, but for some reason, I feel like it wont let me do more. Its like I have limits on me. I know its just stupid games, but I rage because I care, and its hard not to care, especially when I was raised homeschooled and online, and gaming is my life, basically. Kind of a waste, to be honest, but regardless, its true. I am doing college now and stuff, so thats good, but regardless, my rage is bad. But I feel like real life is a lot less rage-inducing than video games, for some reason. And what sucks is that I dont play games by myself because Im scared of raging. I dont break anything, but it really makes me angry, complain, and be loud. It pisses me off emotionally. It sucks, and I am not sure what to think about all this or what to do. Am I just not trying enough? Its also pretty hard to focus on the game, and I also realize I need to focus on not raging, so most of the time I rage without knowing. What do you think about all this?

Shalom, Thank you for sending me your question with punctuation – it really helps. There are still a few things that are hard to understand – like who “they” are? Also, how old are you, and in what situation you live in? You also refer to your past, without explaining what happened there. But, in any event, working on our character traits – midot in Hebrew – is a very important part of life. In Judaism it a constant obligation and labor. One of the first stages is overcoming anger. This is done by a two step process. Firstly, having a stronger connection and understanding that Hashem is running the show. The more one appreciates that all that happens is from Hashem, the more one is able to overcome their anger. The book “The Garden of Emuna” ( – New and Expanded Edition – English) by Rabbi Shalom Arush, is a good place to start. The second stage is to become less egocentric. Learning the book “The Path of the Just” by Rav M.H. Luzatto zt”l would serve you well in this area. In any event, it is a long road of constant work to overcome our rage – but the benefit are incredible. A life of happiness and light, G-dliness and companship. May you have many blessings.